"You get to see we are all human beings trying to protect ourselves from being too alone. This course helped me stop putting other people on pedestals and being scared of them - they're only human, with fears of their own." — Anonymous

"My own worst fear isn't so terrible after all! Now I can accept people with personalities different from mine. This has expanded my envelope of action and helped me accept and understand the way people are." — Anonymous

"I saw that I am so efficient at presenting myself to others that I've been frightened to be otherwise. The cost is that I often hold back from expressing myself. I found out that there is power and value in that part of myself that I feared showing to others." — Anonymous

"It was a relief to be able to step back from myself and really have a laugh at what I was doing, and then also to cry about it. This is a very safe environment in which to work and also a very empowering one." — Anonymous

"I felt a warm soft glow in my heart. This course knocked my eyes, heart, and mind awake. It left me with a gratitude and wonder at the absolute preciousness of life." — Olivia Edwards

"I came away with a sense of how much life is gifting me, if only I allow myself to feel and experience it." — Nick Bunyan

"I thought it brought the experience of spirit back into the realm of the ordinary. In the past I have tended to look for meaning outside myself and waited for answers that would come. Now I see what I've been missing, here in the present. The idea of 'here and now' has become alive, rich and meaningful." — Maggi Gilson

"I see the spirituality in everyday living, I see the guru that is in everyone and everything." — Christine Westwood

"An advanced course, a next step. An evoking, powerful and resourceful experience for anyone who has taken the More To Life Weekend." — Lesley Taylor

"Parenting is one of the most essential and complex of roles. It goes on throughout our neighborhoods and our social lives, as well as in our families. Yet, who trains us to be parents? In my own experience after the ante-natal classes, I was on my own! Effective Parenting teaches powerful and simple skills that sharpened the skills I already possessed and gave me some confidence that the fulfillment and joy of parenting was within my grasp. For my money, this was the best More To Life course yet. I urge anyone who hasn't had the privilege of this work to get to it next time it is in town." — Lesley Taylor

"I learned to accept my children completely and utterly just as they are, and not to be so frustrated by their idiosyncrasies and their unique way of reacting to events. It helped me focus on my own very secure and loving childhood memories and realize how fortunate I have been. It also taught me not to take my children for granted but really to enjoy their company and learn from them as they travel along the road of life." — Paula Butler

"I learned that I easily slip into 'I know what's best for you' with my students, which is exactly what my father did with me, and I really hated it! I got a lot from this course -new ways of being with my students, and also new ways I want to be with my mother." — Jenny Laney

"When I am driven I try to squeeze my parenting around the other things in my life which often results in me resenting my son when he doesn't behave according to my plan! I realized, once again, the value of using these practices if I want the day-to-day quality of my life to improve, which I do." — Dan Salter

"In this course I learned how much I really love my children! I have expected things of them that they cannot do, and created a battleground with my elder son on occasions. He is reported to be beautifully behaved at nursery, whereas he is often 'challenging' with me. My intention is to be more awake and alive - watching, listening carefully, giving, but staying in my authority. I want to continue to grow and develop, so that the children can grow and develop too." — Deborah Tobin-Desson

"I am greatly enthused and very much looking forward to having my new baby." — Rachel Kustow

"I learned a lot about myself and in so doing rediscovered the beauty and joy of my children. I was amazed at how deeply I was affected by the meditation: I had not been aware that my own experience as a child had had such an impact on my parenting." — Patricia Bryce

"I learned how much something can be staring you in the face and you miss it, like the way children reflect their parents own behavior and that your 'issues' with them are often a direct response to a 'problem' they are getting from you. My next step is to 'lighten up' and not have to be in control so much." — Catherine Baile

"I learned how easily I slip into being 'right' and making others 'wrong' when faced with a moral dilemma. I came away from the weekend with a different relationship to the issue of taking responsibility - I feel lighter, more grounded, and more in control." — Kate Bartholomew

"I learned that often in my life I have been influenced by other people when making moral decisions, and those times I have suffered a lot of unpleasant consequences - but not known why. It is now much clearer how I can be aware of what is in my own heart and where I can choose to stand on my own personal authority." — Therese Attling

"I learned that I don't have to take responsibility for other people's morality. What I can do is to by example, and choose to take responsibility for my own moral choices." — Robert Clay

"I learned the importance of consistency between my ethical beliefs and my behavior, for the sake of my integrity so that I feel authentic in all my interactions with individuals." — George Beckmann

"It was a wonderfully relevant course for me in my work as a doctor. It woke me up to the number of issues requiring a moral stand. It also became crystal clear that to avoid these is also making a choice. Yet I saw that sometimes I simply do not know what the 'right' choices is, and at these times learn to trust myself and my humanity more." — Adam Stern

"The More To Life Weekend had already caused me to notice the frequency with which I silenced my own truth in hopes of being liked by others. This course brought home to me how much my choices have depended on how I think I will be seen as a result of them. I was stunned to see how I still try to please my parents, whom I lost decades ago! Doing the same exercise at the beginning and end of the course revealed some important differences in the way I was making decisions, and showed me a way forward." — Hilary Shaw

"I saw that avoiding my issues and not carrying out my choices does not serve either my growth or my integrity. I learned that our ethics are an intrinsic part of our being." — Chris Hall

"I noticed that while I agonize about big moral choices, I often fall down on the seemingly small ones, and whenever I do so, I shrink as a person. This course has been a big for me and I have made a conscious choice to live my greater self." — Diane Kay

"I learned about essence - that loving is a basis for my ethical decisions and for my behavior. I have forgiven myself for many things on a profound, deep level, and I feel free, clean, and powerful!" — Briggy Kiddle

"It was an affirmation and a clarification of what I knew/believed. Most significant was letting go of the 'no' to life in my decisions - the blinkers came off, my creativity was evoked and I could make a decision I really owned." — Louise Barr

"I learned that although I judged myself to be an honest person, I was honest only to a particular extent. I got to see that I grew up believing that certain types of cheating were OK. The course challenged me to really go for who I want to be. It is quite scary and sometimes seems 'hard' but here goes..." — Sharon Foster

"I wanted to rekindle my fire and get back to where I had been before September 11th but I got more than that. I realised that my love is bigger than my fear. I don’t have to shield myself from feeling the pain of others. In fact feeling that pain opens my heart, which allows me to have and give more love. This was a transformational weekend. I am full of love and life." — Nancy Rocks

"It fanned the flames of my wild fire – my passion for life, and my passion to be truly David – who I really am!" — David Spreadbury

"I’ve been looking for my fire for six months now and I found it here this weekend." — Sabrina Burgin

"I believe I have broken the back of my proving, my need for approval, my sense of never really belonging." — Warren Kahn

"I came to feed my fire and I found it. I also learned new ways to keep the flame burning." — Irene Ulrey

"I got something out of it that I wouldn’t have thought to ask for. I envision more peace, gratitude and happiness in my life!" — Laura Lautenschlager

"I created more than I had planned on and I was hoping for a lot. I don’t know of another way my money can do better work." — Alan Hennessey

"I discovered that coming from a place of gratitude is the real fountainhead of service and humility." — Harvey Dosik

"I am fired up, filled up and expanded. This was far beyond what I was expecting." — Diane Perry

"I wanted to recreate the passion in my relationship. I did this!" — Ralph Riddle

"As an opportunity to spend time with others, seeking out our truths about money, this was deeply empowering. A sense of detachment from money is starting to creep into my life, along with a wish to see money for what it is and treat it responsibly. My partner did the weekend too, and we've managed to tackle some of our financial issues in a really easy, positive way. We've struggled to do this before with the best will in the world and we just couldn't do it. Now we see what has been in the way we needn't do it any longer!" — Jackie Jones

"This course was as powerful for me as my original More To Life Weekend. As I started noticing my behavior in the domain of Money Mastery there was a sense of Eureka! It revealed how all-pervasive our attitudes to money are, and also the values we and society have built around it. The course gave me some tools with which to detach myself from its emotional hold and also make clear choices that will improve this profoundly important relationship." — Chris Hall

"I have a new awareness of the reality of money, the basic neutrality of money, the real potential of money, and the reality and potential of myself apart from what I am 'worth'." — Briggy Kiddle

"I thought my money issues were all about security, but later it dawned on me that I actually equate my own self-worth with money, which I never would have believed before. It has given me another way of looking at money - seeing it as it really is, not as an aspect of me, and this gives me the freedom to choose in places where choice didn't seem to be a part of the equation." — Ian Douglas

"Now I no longer have to keep quiet about my money, to avoid being selfish or appearing to buy others' friendship, or to avoid being shunned. I gained a new realization that I don't have to 'earn' the money I inherited, by working hard for free! I don't always have to try and give back to Life more than I 'take out'. I can choose what I want to do willingly and lovingly. I can claim and use the money I have! It is a resource for me, my family, humanity, and the planet." — Gina Garfit

"I discovered I had set myself up for a life of continuous yearning for things that deep down inside I 'knew' I did not deserve. Also, as soon as anything good came my way, I set out to give it away, or throw it away - not only money but also the possibility of creating the career I really wanted, the relationships I really wanted, and the life I really wanted." — Gina Van Langenhove

"It made me aware of my attitude to men and why I usually don't get close. I saw that I put up walls in all kinds of relationships. I learned a lot on the course, and found other things making sense to me over the following weeks." — Sally Braine

"I have barriers I have unconsciously created and can let go of - and they cost me a lot. I lose intimacy and the direct connection that I really want with my loved ones, and an openness with others that I also want. I found the conflict resolution exercise a really simple yet enormously powerful tool in helping me listen to people and be heard and then create something new together." — Gordon Peterson

"I really enjoyed this weekend. I felt challenged, and it broke down some fears about relationships and their problems. I learned that communication is the art of agreement and hearing each other, not trying to gain superiority over another person. My own intention is to consider the walls I put up preventing real communication. Our intention as a couple is to organize more space in our lives to hear each other and to listen to each other's concerns." — Derek Harper

"I learned how I use anger and resentment as protection against others, but that having this doesn't stop me from feeling hurt. I found that talking about my feelings isn't the same as having them. I can choose how I want to be, and what I want. And that there is a creative way to deal with issues where we can both 'win'." — Tessa Gaynn

"I identified some false beliefs and many unconscious behaviors that have sabotaged my most meaningful relationships. When I managed to conquer my own walls I experienced a profound sense of relief and a deeper connection with my partner. I learned that I had never actually established a purpose in my relationships, and when I do find my purpose, anything seems possible. Most importantly I see how vital relationships are to my spiritual well-being." — Shelley Manser-Cossey

"I realized I had been waiting for the other person to bring down the wall. My action, or rather, inaction, was depending on them. As soon as I could see that the power was really in my hands, I was able to let my own walls down, and this has had a liberating effect on both of us!" — Anonymous

"I discovered that for me, a fundamental thing is being willing to support my partner with the truth about what is going on. This enabled us to communicate about what was really happening honestly and directly for the first time. It even carried us through a period of separation, and we have been living together in a completely different way since then." — Anonymous

"It gave me a technique for communicating with other people that I know I can rely on. It feels very secure to know that no crisis is going to be too much to handle, that there is a way to make communication happen, no matter what happens." — Anonymous

"Since the course I've seen our relationship in a new way: I have a sense of the big picture, which is our context of love and respect for one another. So even if little things go wrong, we can still work it out. Sometimes it brings us closer, sometimes we need to give each other space. Everything feels more secure, and more free at the same time!" — Anonymous

"It was brilliant. I went for it 100% - I still can't quite believe it" — Jessica Johnson

"I realized that my body is fine just the way it is, and I don't have to hide its womanly shape behind jeans and baggy tops. I also learned that men are not creatures to be feared and I can enjoy their company without the over-riding fear that I will be overpowered. This Sexuality weekend has been the most powerful More To Life course for me, and the benefits most immediately evident." — Amanda Hunter

"I learned how important it was for me to trust myself. My future is to own and enjoy all the amazing feelings of love and sexual wants - to savor them, to experience them and to trust them. To experience a closer, more open relationship with my partner and to explore our sexual journeys together. The possibilities seem endless and wonderful and there to be created and enjoyed - so much potential for giving and receiving love from everywhere. This weekend has been the most powerful Focus Course that I have attended. The whole experience has been so liberating. To experience such intimacy and joy with so many people has opened the door and released the shackles on so much potential for connecting, sharing and FUN !" — Carey Warden

"I learned that sexual energy is life energy. Genitals aren't the whole story. My creativity is sexy. I'm OK. Th exercises were very well facilitated and massively brilliant. WOW!" — Tom Morley

"I uncovered a huge, unresolved, in-felt pain and rage from a sexual trauma which I allowed myself to feel for the first time. My mind had pretended at one level that it didn't matter or affect me, yet at another level it has been controlling my sexual expression ever since. I shall be sharing my revelations and liberation with my partner in the days to come. The battle has begun. The demon will be slayed." — Louie Gardiner

"I learned that the quality of the connection/relationship I have had with others has been wrapped up in my self-esteem, body image and self-acceptance, and I learned that the world will finish with my past as soon as I am willing to." — Margaret Armitage

"My sexuality is neither something to be ashamed of nor something I need to prove by flirting; my sensuality is an integral, powerful part of me." — Paula Wiltshire

"This has changed my life. I learned many things:

• that sexuality is an integral part of who I am
• that it is an energy which I can choose to use
• that telling the truth, no matter how scary, is revealing and releasing
• that I can have a 'holy' sexual relationship with my wife"

— Gordon Peterson

"The course revealed what has really been motivating my 'will'. And by accepting myself as I am and believing in myself, and respecting and honoring my commitment to myself, I can steer my will into willingness. The two Lifegames in this course were wonderfully refreshing, loosening, connecting, fun, - I could laugh! The work in pairs was also very revealing: I always seemed to end up with the right partner." — Gesine Stegmann

"The connection between meaning and intentions lead me to my will. It's magical!" — Babsi Frikstad

"I learned that I use my will all the time, and that I can choose to be with people rather than against them, I can go with the flow, as well as against it. By being aware I can choose my willingness and change a mundane, boring act into a challenging, exciting process that benefits myself and others. I see that I am very small, and very big. Right now I have a lot to learn, a long journey ahead, and the willingness and excitement to embrace both!" — Elvin Simpson

"The work on obligation and duty helped me a lot. When I am feeling obliged to do something, I normally just don't do it. Now I realize I can choose to do it anyway, and probably even enjoy it!" — Kim Ryder

"I learned about recognizing my limits, and my son's disability. I have been living so much of my life out of impossibility, obligation and survival and not a lot of willingness. I now want to get involved with disability issues in my area, and fully embrace what I have in my life. I did say 'yes' to a disabled son, but have kept away from other people's disability. I have so much to give, and so much I can teach others. It's time to say 'yes' to who I am, and use what I know more effectively." — Sue Bellamy

"I am starting to see that life really has been a gift, like a present that I never fully unwrapped. I have been searching for it somewhere else - it's here!" — Jo Fisher

"I realize I have been looking for a 'pigeon hole' job to fit into, when what I need to do is acknowledge and list my qualities to enable me to seek a job which 'fits' me. Fully accepting myself and the way life actually is enables me to move forward and help others, as well as create change -refusing to accept the way life is keeps me locked in distress and also makes me less effective as a source of support and encouragement to others. I know that deep down, my purpose is to be there for people, and I am no longer overwhelmed by the number of job vacancies available. Those that fit me now stand out like a beacon." — Harry Royle

"I learned that the big issues I have with my partner are really with myself. As Sue Oldham said, if all our problems were 'out there' then we couldn't do anything about them!" — Veronica Moen

"I experienced a deeper awareness of the fact that how I choose to be is not dependent either on circumstances or on other people. I learned some skills that help me explore the real motivation behind my actions. It provided some useful tools in an expanding tool box, which offers me what is always really there, the choice about how I want to be moment to moment. The Lifegame in this course really worked for me: like most interactive exercises it gave me a chance to become more aware of feelings and actions and choose different ones or not, on the spot. Lifegames always stay in my mind, loudly, so I can reflect and examine and work on exactly what happened much later, as well as near the time." — Kathryn Mason

"I learned to face my fears and ask for support, also to step forward and let go of my mindtalk, and reach out to life in my humanity. My next step is sharing what's in my heart with others, to be my true self as it is and to face the reality - the source. I had a chance to listen and learn it's not who wins or loses, nor is it proving who you are." — Acceptance Abraham

"I expect my will to be stronger as a result of this weekend, and it's going to do wonders for my business." — Lorraine Tapper

"I got that I can trust life and get into partnership with life. I can get much more than I ever dreamed of. My next steps are:

• to embrace my womanhood
• to trust and meet a man for a loving relationship
• to raise the money that will enable me to continue to work on a project that involves building homes and community space for ten families
• to sell my car and bring my bank account into credit for the first time in 10 years

I now have a beautiful image of life as a wave that carries me along on its crest, and I also have a new ability to course correct." — Jo Renshaw

"I learned to clarify the difference between my feelings and the meaning I put on them. When I separate out the resentment and the anger, my sadness and grief become pure and real. I can tell the difference between being feeling sad and feeling sorry for myself. I feel excitement about a new beginning alongside the grief and loss, they don't cancel each other out. I also discovered that to genuinely share my feelings evokes amazing responses in other people." — Sue Gabriel

"This weekend revealed some simple new processes and a message of choice and trust which is having manifold meanings in my life, especially on my spirituality which has recently been rather dormant." — Liz Ashley